Just writing to report that I have nothing to report. I have been waiting for my homestudy agency to submit the written homestudy to my international agency, which is taking ages. It's frustrating. Basically what is happening now is that my international agency reviews the homestudy to make sure that it's ok for submission to Kazakhstan and that there is nothing in there which might raise a red flag and cause a delay. I am hoping for this review to take place very soon. Then I will get going on my dossier.
In the meantime, I have entered the world of dating while being a mom-to-be simultaneously. It's a very strange situation to be in. Technically, I am a never married, no kids package. But soon all of that will change. It's an interesting situation to be in - having to decide when, what and how much to tell. I am currently trying out the "full disclosure" technique right now, which seems to be working just fine. I'd love to hear from any of you who have adopted and dated. While I am being completely honest with the guy I am seeing, I find myself with an unusually high guard up - afraid that this will all freak him out at some point. In that case, I think my subconscious is trying not to invest too much emotionally.
I think it will be different once the baby is here. Then I'll just be a single mom. But right now, it's kind of like dating someone who is pregnant except there is no biological father in the picture. Weird, huh? I am really struggling with whether or not I should be writing about this, but why not. It's about as real as it gets, no?
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Just checking in to let you know we're thinking about you :)
Regarding the "full disclosure" thing, I tried that the first time I met Annica. Crazy? Maybe, but it worked - and it still works.
Ahhh the dating question. I had wondered the same things but my situation is so retarded (not a great word to use but true nonetheless) so I am not that great of an advice giver. :) I guess if I had truly been in the 'dating scene' while adopting, I too would have definitely done the full disclosure thing and I too would have been 'overly' guarded........probably to the point of pushing anyone straight out of the picture by scaring them silly. :)
Christy
Thanks, Hakan.
I was thinking of you guys which first prompted me to be fully open. I am glad I was. I will continue to be this way. It's too stressful for me not to be!
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Andrea
LOL Christy - no kidding, right? I as actually pretty sure this whole process would promptly knock any ontender out of the ring, but surprisingly it hasn't.
It's kind of hilarious trying ot explain how you are pregnant but not pregnant though. Now if that doesn't initially sound like a red flag for LOOPY then I don't know what does. ROFL
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